Shitty Grandparents

So I 29m and engaged 28f and have a 6m daughter. My fiances parents are not perfect but are amazing compared to mine. For context we live with her parents in the city in their second house and they go to the other one the weekend. My parents are in the city as well but are a lot to deal with. My mom is nice but lets my dad walk over her. He was the typical Armenian dad now Elon maga bro as well. I have been struggling with how we spend time between families. Hers just make it easier and will do what we ask while mine drag their feet and argue back.