What Do We Even Call This Mindset Toward Marriage nowadays ?
If I’m being completely honest, I’m not really interested in getting married right now. I’ll even admit that I’m probably not ready, and there are a lot of things I want to do before I take it seriously.
But one thing I have wanted for a long time—something I’ve been thinking about for the past six years, ever since I finished school—is to just sit down with a girl in real life, have a proper conversation, and get a sense of how things actually are. That’s it. That’s all I want. And yet, I’ve never even had the chance.
Now, my mother is actually quite supportive when it comes to postponing marriage and focusing on self-improvement first. But at the same time, if she could get me married tomorrow without any proper conversations, discussions, or real communication beforehand, she absolutely would—without a second thought.
And honestly, I don’t even know what to call this mindset.
Is it religious? Traditional? A weird mix of modernity? What the hell is happening?
My goal is simple. I just want to talk. Not behind a screen. Not through an app. Not by texting. None of that interests me in the slightest. I just want a straightforward, in-person meeting. But somehow, even that is asking for too much. Just breaking through the initial stages is exhausting. It’s like I have to do things her way or it’s the highway.
Even something as simple as choosing to meet this girl instead of that girl has been blown completely out of proportion. I haven’t even gotten to the part where we figure out if we’re actually compatible, and yet, there’s already drama.
And that’s what’s really pissing me off.
Nothing about this feels normal—not in a religious sense, not in a traditional sense, nothing. They want to act like it’s religious or traditional, but it’s not. It’s just a mess.
Edit:
This exactly captures how I’m feelin. Literally. Lol